New Powerhouse Team Member
Christine is delighted to join the Powerhouse team and share her skills as a grant writer and content creator. Christine, her husband, and their two awesome teen daughters currently reside in North Carolina, where they enjoy a lake-centered life with lots of paddleboarding, kayaking, swimming, and boating. A native New Yorker (without the accent) and an Army spouse of nearly 20 years, Christine has an undergraduate degree in communication from Cornell University and a master’s degree from the University of North Carolina’s Hussman School of Journalism and Media.
When she’s not spending time with her family, you’ll find Christine sewing. She is an avid quilter, specializing in English paper piecing, improvisational piecing, and quilting with precut fabrics. Her work has appeared in four quilting books and is featured frequently on Moda Fabrics’ Bakeshop blog. She is also a dedicated community volunteer with a passion for community literacy.
New Powerhouse Team Member
Nicole is thrilled to join the Powerhouse team as a leadership team assistant! She brings with her over a decade of experience as a registered nurse, military spouse, and dedicated mother of four.
Born and raised in the Pittsburgh area, she earned her nursing degree locally. Her skills in organization, adaptability, planning, and multitasking will be invaluable in supporting the Powerhouse team. In her free time, she enjoys baking, fitness, sports, and supporting charitable causes.
Nicole currently resides in Tucson, Arizona with her active-duty Air Force husband and four children.
New Powerhouse Team Member
Katie is thrilled to join Powerhouse as a quality assurance specialist. With over a decade of experience as an English teacher, she is excited to use her extensive editing skills to help her clients find their clearest professional voices and achieve their business goals.
A proud New Mexican, Katie received her B.A. in English from New Mexico State University and her M.A. in literature from the University of Alabama. After finishing graduate school, Katie taught at her high school alma mater for almost a decade and met her husband Jesse while he was stationed at Kirtland Air Force Base. They currently live in southwestern Oklahoma and share three wonderful little girls. Katie is also employed as an English instructor at a local community college and volunteers as a Key Spouse for her husband’s squadron.
In her free time, Katie loves to get lost in a good book, sip really great coffee, cheer on the Alabama Crimson Tide in the fall, and binge true crime documentaries.
One Final Thought
Jessica Bertsch, president of Powerhouse Planning and proud 17-year military spouse to a CAPT in the U.S. Coast Guard
In 1976, my father-in-law wrote Nobody Asked Me But . . . and my husband, who is currently serving in the United States Coast Guard, recently sent it my way. I thought the write-up was brilliant, and I wanted to attempt to write it from a military spouse perspective. So, here you go . . .
Friends,
The following is a list of what frustrates me to no end when it comes to being a military spouse:
- The 25+ deployments I have been through
- The endless nights of solo parenting
- The dang fire alarm that ONLY goes off at 2 a.m. when my husband is at sea
- The T.V. remote that never works once he ships out
- The ant invasion that happens day two into his deployment that means I now have to become the “exterminator”
- The car issues I have to deal with by myself and explain by noise and vocal demonstrations to the mechanic
- The selling of homes twice solo
- Reregistering my company in five different states
- Having to change my state of residency three times because of owning a business
- Dealing with a break-in and going to court solo to provide a statement to the judge
- Registering the kids for doctors and dentists every. single. move
- Finding a new church every. single. move
- Building a sense of community every. single. move
- Chasing a squirrel out of my house while my husband was at sea (Thanks, Tim and Ron, for helping me on that one. That’s the best defense I’ve ever seen in a noncompetitive sport.)
- Evacuating from two hurricanes with three small children and a dog (which was made even more frustrating when all the stores ran out of ice, so I was “forced” to buy boxed wine so the wine bags could serve as ice bags to keep my food cold)
- Sending a dog to heaven solo
- Finding a leak in the ceiling of our first home only to realize the home was infested with black mold and being removed for months while the home was tarped, gutted, and remodeled
- Having to explain that the U.S. Coast Guard is indeed part of the military
- Having to explain what the U.S. Coast Guard does
- Having to answer the question “How do you do it?” a thousand times over the past 17 years
- Not being able to travel internationally easily because my spouse needs special permission
- Not being able to take vacation easily or on a whim because my spouse needs permission
- Not ever having a spouse that is settled in a career because he is essentially restarting his career every two to three years
- Having a spouse who has a PhD but makes only a portion of his worth
- Dealing with a horrible dental plan (currently we pay out of pocket for ours)
But the thing I hate most is that I love it.
I love the other spouses and friends I’ve met on this journey.
I love that I’m married to a man who has given so selflessly to our country.
I love that throughout his career journey he has seen me as an equal and provided me a place to share my dreams, hopes, and wishes and has worked tirelessly to provide me fulfillment too along the way.
I love that I’ve been forced to learn a ton of things the hard way, but, man, it’s made me strong.
I am grateful for this military spouse walk and can proudly look back at every single home we’ve had and see blessings each step of the way.
Onward I go to keep loving this crazy life we’ve built.
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Jessica Bertsch is a proud Coastie wife and mom to three children. In her “spare” time she runs Powerhouse Planning, LLC: powerhouseplanning.com.
Starting Out on the Military Spouse Journey – Fionna Schoener
Fionna Schoener and her Marine husband, Jay, celebrated their first year of marriage in December 2023. The two met during college through friends. “Jay did his first year at the Naval Academy,” Fionna explains. “I was at Penn State. Friends introduced us. Jay ended up transferring to Penn State after that first year.” Though Jay’s year at the Naval Academy gave Fionna “a taste” of military life, she had no experience with the military prior to marrying him. “I think maybe a great, great-grandparent or someone may have served, but no one in my memory.”
Currently, Jay and Fionna are enjoying their first duty station, where Fionna works as an architectural designer at a firm that designs K-12 schools. “I love it,” she says, referring to both her chosen profession and the firm she currently calls her work home. Remote work isn’t really an option in her field, and she’s dreading the day they PCS. “I don’t want to leave my firm,” Fionna says, “but I know I’ll have to find a new firm. And it will be a great opportunity, too.”
That attitude, one where she embraces the challenges of military life, has already seen her through Jay’s first deployment. “Nothing can prepare you for that first deployment,” Fionna says. “The missing communication during deployment is so hard. You’re used to sharing everything about your day with this person. Sure, we have texts and things, but nothing replaces that everyday communication you’re used to.”
Even with all the challenges that come with deployment, Fionna focuses on the positives. “When Jay deployed, we hadn’t been where we are for very long,” she says. “I didn’t know a lot of people, but during his deployment so many people came to check on me and now we are close friends. I wasn’t alone one weekend of his deployment.” In fact, if she had to offer a piece of advice to new military spouses it would be this: “Say yes to everything. Put yourself out there.” It’s advice that didn’t come naturally to her, but Fionna stands by it. “It wasn’t exactly comfortable, but I would accept any offers to hang out, go with someone to something,” she says. “Now, Jay and I just hosted our first Friendsgiving with our new friends. That wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t been open to trying new things.”
Speaking of trying new things, a new hobby ranks among Fionna’s favorite memories as a military spouse so far. “We’re in southern California,” Fionna says, “So Jay and I decided to try surfing. It’s not something either one of us had done before and we never would have had this opportunity if not for the military. Now, it’s one of our favorite things to do together.” In addition to creating the memories that each duty station affords them, Fionna and Jay are committed to settle into each place they’ll be stationed no matter how long they’ll be there. “It’s important to settle in,” Fionna stresses, “no matter how long we’ll be there.” How does she do that? “I find a church,” she says. “That’s important to us. Once we have a church, we start to make friends. But whatever helps you make a place a home, focus on making that among your first priorities when you move.”
As for reflecting on her first year as a military spouse, Fionna says there’s one thing she wishes new military spouses knew before becoming a military spouse. “It’s a job!” she says. “In addition to your relationship, especially as you’re starting out and learning what that looks like for the two of you, being a military spouse is a lot of work. It’s worth it, but it’s a job.” Just in the first year, Fionna has made lifelong friends, taken up a new hobby, survived her husband’s first deployment, found a rewarding job at a firm she loves, and is already looking toward what comes next. As she says, if military spouses had a motto, it’d probably be, “We’ll make it work!” One year in, Fionna is living proof of that.
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In the Midst of the Military Spouse Life – Rossmery Oakes
Rossmery Oakes is an Air Force spouse of nine years and also happens to be one of Powerhouse Planning’s uber-talented freelance graphic and web designers. When we launched our Empowering the Homefront initiative in January 2023, Rossmery was right there volunteering to be a part of giving back to the military spouse community, one of the most overqualified and underappreciated communities there is.
Rossmery and her husband, Chris, grew up in the same hometown. In fact, when Rossmery was in sixth grade, her family moved to the same street Chris’ family lived on. It may seem inevitable that the two were “middle school sweethearts” who transitioned into being best friends throughout high school. Still, that initial connection never went away, and they started dating seriously in college and never looked back. Together, they have been through four PCSs, with the last one being the first their daughter, Gabby, also experienced. “That was challenging,” Rossmery recalls. “For me, I love PCSs. Obviously, they’re stressful, but the thrill of moving somewhere new, learning all the new things of a place is exciting.” But moving with a baby was a whole other level of “excitement.”
With Chris driving their two dogs, Rossmery enlisted her parents to help her fly halfway across the country with Gabby. As we all know too well, things never go smoothly during a PCS. For a variety of reasons, Rossmery’s parents ended up flying a day later, leaving Rossmery to travel with the baby and arrive at a new house alone. Luckily, for some reason, a lone recliner was left behind in their new home, and that first night, Rossmery slept in that recliner before being reunited the next day with the rest of her family.
When Chris first joined the Air Force, the military experience wasn’t something Rossmery necessarily knew she could handle so well. “I was completely unprepared for military life. It’s a very different lifestyle from civilian life. I didn’t expect it would be so different, but it teaches you a lot of things,” she says. One of those lessons is learning how to navigate a career as a military spouse. “I was in my last two years of college when our military journey started and spent some time settling for jobs unrelated to my career field just to have income,” she says. “It’s hard to convince employers to invest in the uncertainty of knowing how long you’ll be there. In fact, my first job gave me a temporary position instead of the job I applied for. I worked that temporary job the whole time, but they were so reluctant to just hire me outright.”
Being a military spouse did make her eligible for the Military Spouse Career Advancement Accounts (MyCAA) program, which gave her a grant to use for accreditation in coding and web development, an accreditation that she’s leveraged along the way to become a graphic designer as well. “My bachelor’s is in biology. I actually wanted to enter teaching or research, but those aren’t military-friendly fields,” she says. “So, I started with the coding program and expanded on that. Ultimately, that opportunity and hard work landed me at Powerhouse.”
Having the ability to freelance and work remotely allows Rossmery to balance the unique needs of military life, from working around her husband’s Air Force schedule to being able to carry her career with her no matter where they’re stationed. Yet, career advice isn’t the thing Rossmery lands on when we asked her what she wishes military spouses knew before or shortly after entering military life. “Lean on financial education,” she stresses. “[The military] has programs out there, but they’re primarily targeted at the military member. Military finances work so differently. You have to know about things like PCSs and TDYs, deployment pay, bonuses, and how money works around those things. Talk with your spouse, attend the programs you can find, and use your network. It’s so important.”
Networking is huge for Rossmery. Aside from finances, she recommends joining Facebook groups centered around places you’re going to live, the Military OneSource website for all kinds of resources, and the MyCAA grant program if you’re interested in school options. “Facebooks groups especially are a great resource,” she says. “They offer you all the things you won’t get from official sources. You can really get a feel for what a base is going to be like just from the Facebook groups.”
As for the dreaded deployments, Rossmery offers up a couple of pieces of advice. “Make plans for yourself for while your spouse is going to be gone. For me, that looks like trips, family visits, etc.—things I can schedule that give me something to look forward to throughout the deployment,” she says. “And my second piece of advice is reach out, especially to stay-at-home spouses, not necessarily during your spouse’s deployment, but when you know others are deployed. Adopt a friend and check on them often. Bring them dinner or invite them on an outing. Offer free babysitting. I’m fortunate enough to have been adopted by military spouses before, and I know how much it can make a difference. Lean on your military spouse community because no one knows how to get through it quite like other military spouses.”
As for her military spouse motto, Rossmery pointed us to something her husband Chris says. “When he’s stressed, he’ll say, ‘It’s a great day’ over and over until he starts to believe it. Being a military spouse is great, but there are days when you’ll need to repeat ‘It’s a great day’ more than once.” At Powerhouse, we are thankful that Rossmery chooses to share her days and her talents with us and that she is such an asset not only to our clients but also to Empowering the Homefront.
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